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Finger-nails, guitars and number two’s

01 Jan
 Odd title for my first post of 2012. During 2011 I did not do a single post so hopefully this is not my only post for 2012. So what do finger-nails, number 2’s and guitars have in common? Normally nothing but at present they’re reminding me of two things Jesus once said.
Jude helping Daddy wash the car

Jude helping Daddy wash the car

 

As a child I hated having my finger nails cut. I squirmed and screamed, wiggled and performed, and  cried out in ‘anguish’ as my mom would cut my nails. My eldest son, Jude, however doesn’t have this same fear. This dawned on me a few days ago as I was sitting in our kitchen busy performing some overdue nail maintenance. Whilst lobbing off the chunks of keratin at the end of my fingers Jude approached me saying “Daddy cut fingers… Daddy cut Jude’s fingers, Daddy cut Jude’s fingers”’. It was then as I proceeded to cut his nails that the following revelation hit me. My Dad chewed his finger nails and so I never saw him cut his nails. Jude on the other hand was eager to have his finger nails cut when he saw what I was doing. At his current age (23 months), Jude’s childlikeness along with his relationship with me as his father (and hero) result in a desire to mimic my behaviour. It’s why Jude washes his motorbike since seeing me wash my car. It’s why he insists on playing his little guitar every single day. It’s why he sometimes first grabs one of his little books and pages through it whenever he sits on the potty to do a poo. It’s why even at such a young age he prays when we put him to bed at night. It’s why whenever he hurts himself, or drops or breaks something he says, “oh dear!!!”

Jude washing his toy motorbike

Jude washing his toy motorbike

Childlikeness then is not only a key to the kingdom of God, but a key to becoming Christ like. Childlikeness is a key for us to conquer our flesh and walk in the spirit.

So what is it that Jesus said that made me think of this? I’m referring to his statements about becoming like children and his statement that He only does what he sees the father doing. Here are the two portions of scripture.

Matthew 18:2-52 He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. 3 And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.

John 5:19-2319 Jesus gave them this answer: “I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. 20 For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, to your amazement he will show him even greater things than these. 21 For just as the Father raises the dead and gives them life, even so the Son gives life to whom he is pleased to give it. 22 Moreover, the Father judges no one, but has entrusted all judgment to the Son, 23 that all may honour the Son just as they honour the Father. He who does not honour the Son does not honour the Father, who sent him.

Playing guitar with Daddy

Playing guitar with Daddy

In the past I’ve honestly only thought of childlikeness in terms of how I trust God. Even now Jude will leap from the side of a pool into my arms even though he knows he cannot swim on his own. My approach has been much the same when praying for the sick, baptising someone in the spirit, speaking to a large crowd or casting out demons; that is I simply trust God to be true to his word. Seeing the sick healed, or someone filled with the spirit and speaking in tongues, or watching demons manifest and leave has nothing to do with me after I’ve taken my leap. It’s all up to God. Now however I find myself wrestling with this new aspect of childlikeness that I’d not considered. I find myself now reanalysing Jesus’ behaviour as one who did what he saw His Father doing. After all Jesus perfectly lived out everything he taught. Paul (the apostle) understood these concepts of childlikeness and imitation. Paul writes:

If you happy and you know it clap your hands

If you happy and you know it clap your hands

1 Corinthians 4:14-17 - 14 I am not writing this to shame you, but to warn you, as my dear children. 15 Even though you have ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel. 16 Therefore I urge you to imitate me. 17 For this reason I am sending to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord. He will remind you of my way of life in Christ Jesus, which agrees with what I teach everywhere in every church.

1 Corinthians 10:31 – 11:1 - 31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 32 Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God— 33 even as I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.1 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.

In conclusion I’m asking my self a few questions;

  • What things in my life are good imitations of other solid men in Christ?
  • What things in my life are good imitations of things I’ve seen God doing?
  • Am I still imitating any ungodly men?
  • Am I spending adequate time with the Father? Imitation of someone requires intimate knowledge of them which requires quality time.

 

With this in mind my number one goal for 2012 is to have at least 365366 quiet times.

Jude reading on the potty

Jude reading on the potty

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Things that make a father proud

11 Oct

So yesterday was another proud moment for me as a father as Jude was upgraded from his baby car seat to a bigger one.

Jude's New Car Seat 1

Jude's New Car Seat 1

As with all things fatherhood related I always reflect on how my experiences as a father compare with my understanding of God as my Father. While Jude was being buckled into his new seat I was saying things like “Wow my boy. You’re now sitting in a big boys seat. You’re such a big strong boy.” At the same time I was also soaking in every little expression on his face as he had his first experience of the new chair and facing forward for the first time.

Even though Jude had essentially done nothing, I was filled with pride, excitement and joy as I shared the moment with him. It got me thinking on what God must experience whenever I grasp a new truth or experience His provision (whether I’m aware of it or not).

There are a number of instances in the psalms where it says that God delights or takes pleasure in us. I wonder what delight God takes in me while I take delight in my son? I wonder what delight he took in my first experience of shooting a bow and arrow on Saturday? Or when I look at my wife and think about how much I love her? Or as I imagine how awesome my sandwhich for lunch will be. What about as I’m amazed by the process of the broccoli growing in my veggie garden or as I dream about the future.

As I watch Jude explore the world, attempt to climb on things, chase the cats, try say ‘Jasper’ and make all sorts of funny noises; I’m filled with delight. Even as Jude sits in the bath and splashes non stop for 20 minutes I am delighted.

How wonderful it is to be a father. How wonderful it is to know THE FATHER.

Jude's New Car Seat 2

Jude's New Car Seat 2

Psalm 22:8
“He trusts in the LORD; let the LORD rescue him. Let him deliver him, since he delights in him.”

Psalm 35:27
May those who delight in my vindication shout for joy and gladness; may they always say, “The LORD be exalted, who delights in the well-being of his servant.”

Psalm 36:8
They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights.

Psalm 37:23
If the LORD delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm;

Psalm 147:11
the LORD delights in those who fear him, who put their hope in his unfailing love.

Proverbs 3:12
because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

2 Samuel 22:20
He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.

Psalm 16:3
As for the saints who are in the land, they are the glorious ones in whom is all my delight.

Psalm 149:4
For the LORD takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with salvation.

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